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Friday, January 19, 2007

Sad news

Why do bad things happen to such good people? Or better yet why do bad things happen period?

We just found out last night that one of my best friends, L,(who can't have children) and her husband, R, had to return their adopted child to the birth mother. They've had the child since birth (Thanksgiving Day). The birth mom had 10 days to change her mind and she didn't however the birth dads mom showed up in court and wanted the baby. (Dad's in jail...looking at 20 to life). So that threw a wrench in the plan. So they go back to court again and now the birth mom wants him back. They've been in an out of court so many times in the past 2 months. But it was all over yesterday. Well all over for my friends. Heartbreaking. I realize that the birth mom is just that...the birth mom and yes its her child but she chose to give that child away. Didn't she have 9 months to make up her mind? Why wait til the very last possible minute and then decide, after L & R have taken him as their own, that she wants to be a mom.

I just don't understand.

On a positive note tho....the judge did grant them visitation and they're not giving up. They're giving themselves some time to heal and will eventually try again.

Good Luck L & R!


Anonymous said...

I'm sure that the birth mother would rather have custody than let the babies fathers parents take the child.
I have a feeling that's what happened. Just my opinion though.

Dee said...

What a sad story. It's just not right people take the miracle of life so for granted. I hope your friends have better luck the next time around.