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Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Delayed....

again.

So, everyone knows M and I are sitting out this month because we decided that me going alone just wouldn't work for us but it looks like we're gonna sit out another one. Or two.

Let me explain.

My mom and dads 50th wedding anniversary is December 19 and mom wants to do the wedding thing all over again. They didn't really have a wedding. It was just them and the preacher. She didn't even have a wedding dress. Just an old skirt and blouse. She was just 18 and dad 21. So she's asked me to help her and I'm so excited! She wants dad in a tux and for her to finally be able to wear that beautiful wedding dress she's always dreamed of. So we've got some planning to do.

How does this effect M and I and our baby making?

Well, since we skipped this month.....my next cycle should begin around March 26 (IUI around April 7) and IF we got a BFP with that round, our estimated due date would be December 31. That's just 12 days after the anniversary/wedding. Too close. And my parents live 500 miles away. Too far to drive while 9 months pregnant. That's not gonna work.

The NEXT cycle should start around April 23 (IUI around May 5) with an estimated due date of January 28. BUT we're heading to NYC on May 9 for the weekend. I don't guess flying or walking would hurt so short after the IUI but still......

I can't/wont miss my own moms wedding.

We've got lots of thinking and re-thinking to do.


I forgot to mention that our storage contract at the cryo is up April 18. Looks like we'll need to renew that.

I feel a nervous break down coming on.

15 comments:

Mimi said...

Damn, I feel bad for you, good luck to you guys and good luck at the wedding.....will your brother be on his good behavior?

Kim said...

Mimi - I haven't thought that far ahead. LOL The roof will probably collapse with the 2 of us under it together!

Sparroweye said...

Why not go ahead with the May timing.
Maybe a trip to New York at the same time is just the stress reliever you need. I just remember trying to get pregnant for a year and obsessing and the more I obsessed, the more my friend turned up. Finally I quit caring, we went in debt, bought a brand new car. Bingo. You know how they say a watched pot never boils? I think the same thing is true of getting pregnant. You can be your own worst enemy. My doctor told me, that a good healthy embryo, nothing will shake.

K J and the kids said...

2 weeks is hard...2 months is going to seem like an eternity.
Good luck !

Marcy "meg" said...

I think sparroweye is on to something about the May thing. I think that sounds like a pretty good idea!

Good luck to you whatever you decide.

Shawna said...

One thing we've learned through our journey is you've just got to go through with the inseminations no matter what and you can't plan for the "what if's".

The two times that it actually worked and we ended up pregnant :

1. We had scheduled a trip to London before the insemination with DD.

2. We had scheduled a trip to San Francisco before the embryo transfer with this one.

Just our two cents of course...but I know that sitting out months was mentally and emotionally more exhausting than going forward.

At least with straight couples they can "try" and have a chance of being pregnant and some hope of becoming pregnant!

Best wishes either way!
Shawna

Lizzie said...

First, how truly wonderful that your lovely parents have been together for 50 years! That's beautiful. Second, I'm sorry about the stress and the maybe sitting out a cycle or two. I know you'll make the right decisions for the two of you. You know yourselves well and have such a clear sense, from what I can see, of what you need. But I know the thought of delays is scary .... so sending courage and love.

Stacey said...

congrats to your parents, but I bet you are both really upset to be sitting out.... I dont know how I would cope with that.. you ar both much stronger than us. Whatever you decide it will work out, BUT, I kinda agree that you gotta take the chance, and if it works, it was meant to be, and you can work around it... best wishes...

Ali said...

I agree with sparroweye. I think May sounds good!- for relaxation and the tww will go by SO MUCH faster :-)

Denise said...

Still rooting for you guys! Most of the time I lurk, but have been following your story. I say try in may.

tiff said...

Definitely try. You never know what may or may not happen. I think what your parents are doing is awesome. Good luck Kim!

Merr said...

Wow that sucks! I hate having to take breaks.

Liz1971 said...

congrats to your cutie parents!!! love that they want to have a wedding.... hmmm.... it would be very easy for me to tell you what i think I'D do, but i know you will do what is best for you and m. :) thinking of YOU! xo

Angela said...

I will just put in my two cents but I think you should give it a shot now. I thought about those future events before trying to conceive in late 2006 (my parents' trip to Alaska in late July, our friends' wedding in August-we were actually in the wedding). I had really planned on being seven or eight months pregnant when my parents went away so they wouldn't miss the birth of their first grandchild. What happened? My 56-year-old mother was diagnosed with cancer a month before their trip and nearly died, so their trip was off and they missed her birth because my mom was still in the ICU in Ohio when she was born. Our friends' wedding was August 19th. Daughter was due July 29th and came August 9th. So what did we do? Drove from CT to OH to see my mom in the hospital and then drove to MI to be in our friends' wedding. We did all of this with a 9-day-old baby and I looked like I was five months along in my bridesmaid dress, but it fit. And I wouldn't have had it any other way.

Long story short? You don't have control over those future occasions. They may happen, they may not. You only have control over what you decide to do now and you trust God to take care of the rest.

Teaberry said...

Wow, my folks have also been married 50 years this year! Congrats to your folks! I think it's neat they're having this fun ceremony, and of course you must go!

But, I think everyone's right--- you should go for it! You know, we're having our ceremony next month, and one of our best friends is pregnant, and due basically any minute around our due date. Just think, your wee one could be there for the festivities!

I bet there is some total validity to the whole weird timing thing!